We tend to think of anger as a wild, negative emotion, but research finds that anger also has its positive side.
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There are all sorts of good sensible, civilised reasons to avoid getting angry.
Not only does it make you feel bad, it makes you do stupid things without noticing the risks and it can be self-destructive.
As a result civilised people do their best to suppress, redirect and
mask their anger. Most of us treat our anger as though it's
unreasonable, unshowable and unmentionable.
But like all emotions anger has its purposes, which can be used to good effect.
1. Anger is a motivating force
You sometimes hear people talking about using anger as a motivating
force by 'turning anger into positive energy'. In fact anger itself is
a kind of positive energy and a powerful motivating force. Research has
shown that anger can make us push on towards our goals in the face of
problems and barriers.
In one study participants were shown objects they associated with a
reward. Some, though, were first exposed to angry faces. Those shown the
angry faces were more likely to want objects they were subsequently
exposed to (Aarts et al., 2010).
When we see something as beneficial, we want it more when we're
angry. So, when used right, constructive anger can make you feel strong
and powerful and help push you on to get what you want.
2. Angry people are more optimistic
It may sound like an odd thing to say, but angry people have
something in common with happy people. That's because both tend to be
more optimistic.
Take one study of fear of terrorism carried out in the aftermath of
the 9/11 terrorist attacks. In this study those experiencing anger
expected fewer attacks in the future (Lerner et al., 2003). In contrast those experiencing more fear were more pessimistic about the future and expected further attacks.
3. Anger can benefit relationships
Anger is a natural reaction to being wronged by someone else
and it's a way of communicating that sense of injustice. But society
tells us anger is dangerous and we should hide it. What does this do to
our personal relationships?
Oddly enough research has shown that hiding anger in intimate relationships can be detrimental (Baumeister et al., 1990).
The problem is that when you hide your anger, your partner doesn't know
they've done something wrong. And so they keep doing it. And that
doesn't do your relationship any good.
The expression of anger, if justifiable and aimed at finding a
solution rather than just venting, can actually benefit and strengthen
relationships.
4. Anger provides self-insight
Anger can also provide insight into ourselves, if we allow it.
A sample of Americans and Russians were asked about how recent outbursts of anger had affected them (Kassinove et al., 1997).
55% claimed that getting angry had let to a positive outcome. One top
of this one-third said that anger provided an insight into their own
faults.
If we can notice when we get angry and why, then we can learn what to do to improve our lives. Anger can motivate self-change.
5. Anger reduces violence
Although anger often precedes physical violence, it can also be a way of reducing
violence. That's because it's a very strong social signal that a
situation needs to be resolved. When others see the signal they are more
motivated to try and placate the angry party.
If you're still not convinced that anger might reduce violence,
imagine a world without anger where people had no method for showing how
they felt about injustice. Might they jump straight to violence?
6. Anger as negotiation strategy
Anger can be a legitimate way to get what you want. In one study of
negotiation participants made larger concessions and fewer demands of an
angry person than one who was happy (Van Kleef et al., 2002).
So there's some evidence that anger can be used as a
negotiation strategy, but it's more complicated than that. You can't
just lose your rag and expect to win everything you want.
Anger is likely to work best when it's justified, if you appear powerful and when the other side's options are limited (Sinaceur & Tiedens, 2006; Van Kleef et al., 2007).
In the right circumstances, then, it's possible to both get mad and get even.
Deadly sin or constructive emotion?
Anger can reduce violence, benefit relationships,
promote optimism and be a useful motivating force, but it can just as
easily be destructive.
That's the wonder of human emotions: happy isn't always good and
angry isn't always bad (although it may feel that way). An unhappy
person is also more likely to spot mistakes and an angry person is
highly motivated to act. We need reminding that even scary and dangerous
emotions have their upsides, as long as they are used for the correct
purpose.
The likely features of constructive anger are:
- that the person who caused the anger is present,
- that it is justified and proportionate to the wrongdoing,
- and it is expressed as the first step in trying to solve a problem rather than just venting bad feeling.
People seem to unconsciously understand the benefits of anger. One
study found participants who were about to play a game requiring them to
be confrontational were more likely to listen to angry music beforehand
or think back to things that have made them angry (Tamir et al, 2008). They then went on to perform better in the task because they felt more angry.
Used right, anger can be a handy tool. But use with caution as people
find anger the most difficult of all the emotions to control.
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